Posts Tagged ‘Divorce Attorney’

Divorce Mediation

Saturday, April 24th, 2010

Divorce mediation has become a more affordable and harmonious way to deal with ones divorce. But its significant to note that not all divorce cases are meant for divorce mediation.

In cases where you have an abusive spouse, the safety that the Court may provide would be recommended. When you are dealing with a spouse who perpetually argues with every word that passes your lips, then its highly unlikely that youll be able to confer about concerns of divorce through mediation.

As long as there are issues that need to be addressed due to a lack of cooperation on either side, mediation will not quite cut it. In cases where you are having difficulty finding middle ground with your spouse, it would be a good idea to seek the legal help of a divorce attorney instead.

Divorce mediation requires compromise

Divorce mediation is possible and helpful if both parties are willing to compromise and agree to confer with one mediator rather than seek the legal advice of separate attorneys. This does help both parties save on expensive court fees. Mediation can greatly reduce the total expense of the divorce procedure and you and your mate will generally have more control over the agreement.

The benefits of mediation normally help the agreement along, leading to a successful and enduring settlement. It has also been observed that mediation is not as distressing on the children as a full-blown court case with lawyers and all. This point alone can make mediation instantly appealing to a problematic couple.

What exactly is mediation?

Divorce mediation involves a mediator who assists a couple in coming to an agreement. Unlike what many may believe, a mediator isnt there to make the decisions for you. Nor will he/she tell you and your mate how things ought to be. A divorce mediator will simply sketch out the matters at hand for you and your mate as he/she assists you in your own decision making. This process is normally accomplished through a series of questions as well as concentration on results rather than dwelling on disputes. Even as some arguments may occur, one mustnt be so quickly discouraged. The mere fact that both parties agreed to try mediation means that they are able to cooperate with one another. Normally, the idea of how mediation saves their children from further distress can encourage a couple to come to an amicable agreement.

How long will it take?

The mediation period may be just a number of weeks to even an entire year. It really depends on you and your spouse and the complexity of the matters concerned. If you both are able to reach a harmonious agreement early on, it will be fairly easy to shorten the process of mediation.

In order to help this process along, both parties should be completely aware of his/her rights as well as the possible alternatives which are accessible. The mediator will supply the parties with a Memorandum of Agreement. A Separation Agreement may then be written from the basis of this prior agreement. An attorney may be required in translating the agreements.

Divorce and Lawyers

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

Do I need a lawyer?

Check out the following circumstances to make sure whether you need to have a lawyer or not.

You and your spouse have been wed for at least 5 years
You and your spouse have kids.
Either you or your spouse is the breadwinner while the other may have difficulty getting on his/her own two feet financially speaking, once the divorce is finalized.
You or your spouse has come upon inheritance while married to one another.
Either you or your spouse is in debt.

Where can I get a divorce lawyer?

There are a many ways to get a divorce lawyer. Also try asking your marriage counselor or therapist for a referral. Of course you may ask your relatives or friends as well. Other lawyers can recommend those attorneys which specialize in divorce also.

It is also possible if you may even go straight to the courthouse to check out if a particular divorce lawyer strikes your fancy. No matter where you look, may it be in the yellow pages or in directories on-line, you should assess their credentials.

Meeting a lawyer for consultation

After finding a promising lawyer, the next step would be to meet him/her for consultation. If he/she is hard to reach then this may be a sign that you may have a hard time getting in contact with him/her once you hire him/her as your divorce lawyer. Find out how much he/she may charge for consultation. What exactly is his/her specialization? Its important that he/she specializes in divorce, for you to have the best representation. You wouldnt want a gynecologist dealing with your heart disease would you? Of course youd seek the help of a cardiologist and with legal matters it goes the same. Seek the help of a divorce attorney for divorce concerns.

What you ought to know after consultation with a divorce lawyer

The first time you meet with a divorce lawyer may be one of the few times that you are the one who gets to do most of the asking. Make the most of it. Find out everything you need to know in order to make the right choice of attorney. After speaking with a lawyer, make sure youve discussed the following matters:

Length of practice
Case specialization
Divorce trial experience
Experience in negotiation for settlements
Familiarity with divorce mediators
Custody dispute experience
Familiarity with tax issues of divorce
Familiarity with your particular situation/context
Projected period of time for your case
Projected outcome for your case
Schedule and methods of contacting him/her
Fee (Including specifics, like if travel time is included)
Manner of billing

Divorce and Alimony Formula

Sunday, March 7th, 2010

In divorce, a common question is, “what is the alimony formula”. Well, there really is no set alimony formula for divorce. This is in complete contrast to child support, which is decided based upon a specific formula in each state. Alimony is based on factors and those factors are decided through divorce negotiation or by a divorce judge. But, there is no alimony formula available to your divorce attorney or you to determine in advance what alimony will be paid in your case.

What does a divorce court look at to determine alimony? Those issues do vary by state. But, there are also many alimony factors that are common from state to state. So, although there is no specific alimony formula for you to rely on, there are alimony factors that you can look at to help you determine what the alimony might be in your case.

In divorce, some of the alimony factors that a judge might look at include the following. First is the length of your marriage. If the parties have been married for one year, the court’s attitude towards a request for alimony will be very different than if the parties have been married for twenty years. Because the length of marriage varies so much in all divorces, it is not possible to plug this factor into an alimony forumla to determine the alimony amount.

Another factor affecting the award of alimony is employment status. Obviously, if the spouse seeking alimony has been unemployed or underemployed for a number of years to care for young children, the home, or the spouse, that is a factor that will militate in that spouse’s favor if he or she is seeking alimony. On the other hand, if that spouse has the ability to obtain employment that will more than adequately meet his or her needs, the court might think a little differently about awarding alimony to that party. Other factors that are considered closely with this factor include level of education, job experience, the age of children in the household, and work history.

A major factor that can affect an award of alimony is the amount of property to be retained or divided by the parties. If the spouse seeking alimony has been a stay at home parent, but will have signifcant assets after divorce or has separate assets, like a trust fund, the court’s attitude towards the award of alimony will be affected. The court will certainly view a request for alimony under these circumstances much different than a request made by an individual who is receiving no assets in the divorce or who does not have any separate property.

The health of the party seeking alimony is a major factor that can impact a court’s decision in awarding alimony. If the spouse seeking alimony has a debilitating physical condition that impacts whether or how much they can work, the court will not want to impoverish that party after divorce and the court will be more likely to use alimony to address at least basic living needs.

One other factor that should be considered by the divorce court and by the parties, is the taxability of the alimony payments. In most instances, if there is no specific provision to the contrary, spousal support payments are taxable to the recipient and tax deductible to the payor. The tax benefit obtained by spreading out economic wealth in this fashion can be significant and should be discussed in depth with your divorce attorney.

One issue that is not always considered by the court, but should be discussed with your divorce attorney, is that alimony payments are, in general, not dischargeable in bankruptcy. If there is any possibility that the party who is to pay alimony will be filing for bankruptcy, the divorce attorneys will negotiate very hard on both sides to maximize the final benefit to their client in divorce.

It should thus be apparent that in divorce, there can be no easy alimony forumla, no matter what state you live in. It is impossible to plug these and other factors into a mathematical equation to arrive at a “correct” alimony formula. It is necessary that the divorce court, or the divorce attorneys review how these varied and different factors affect both parties in the divorce and then arrive at a solution that encompasses all of the divorce issues, including property settlement and alimony. They cannot simply set up an alimony formula that would work for all parties.

Advice From A Divorce Attorney?

Monday, December 14th, 2009

I believe that divorce is one of the biggest epidemics in our current society that isn’t being recognized or treated as such. As a marriage and family therapist, of course divorce is something that I am passionate about because it is something that I am spending my life to fight against. I am not ignorant enough to believe that I will see all cases of divorce end during my lifetime, nor am I ignorant enough to believe that all divorce cases even should be prevented. I am, however, perhaps ignorant in my belief that it is crazy for people considering divorce to get advice from a divorce attorney.

Now, most of you are thinking I’m crazy. Who would go to a divorce attorney for advice about their failing marraige? Many people, unfortunately. I had no idea until I began working with marriages and families in crisis just how many individuals and even couples were seeking refuge and advice with their divorce attorney.

I was overwhelmed by my new knowledge for one primary reason. Have people considering getting a divorce forgotten that a divorce attorney is the very last person who will be concerned with them repairing a broken marriage? A divorce attorney makes a living helping married people get divorced while getting as many benefits from the divorce as possible. So why would any nearly-divorced person go to a divorce attorney in hopes of fixing their marraige? Beats me.

My advice to anyone struggling in their marriage is to make an appointment to visit a professional counselor or a marriage and family therapist. The core reason why I suggest this is because in general, counselors and therapists are people who deeply want to see marriages and families restored rather than torn apart. If I am looking for someone to help me fix my car, then it is far wiser to get help from an individual who actually believes that cars can be fixed, right? Of course. The same is true with marriage. Do not go for help to someone who believes that marriages should end easily and for any reason at all. Go instead to a professional who is trained in giving you wisdom about ways to make your relationship work.

A divorce attorney is great for people who are sure that divorce is the option they are choosing. If, however, you are still unsure of your options and if you are still hoping for healing in your marriage, then a divorce attorney is the last person you should see.